Scheduling the plumber, schlepping my college kid’s 14 year-old clunker to the repair shop, endless laundry, friends in crisis, carpool runs to and from summer camps, Dr. Mom duties for the sick and injured, short order cook, bum knee throbbing, bill paying—that’s a glamourous synopsis of my week.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve got an amazing life. It’s just that some days I forget that. Some days are like one I had last week where I just never sit down, never stop folding, cooking, consoling or cleaning until fairly late. Usually those are the days when someone I am related to will inevitably ask, “So, did you do anything today?” The particular night I recall now, I noticed at about 10pm when I finished the dishes that my entire family was downstairs watching some goofy movie. I decided I would join them. Kid you not, I was downstairs in my seat MAYBE 15 minutes when they started asking for “old fashioned” popcorn (a true delicacy with the Thieme men). They begged and whined. It was pathetic but my energy was too low to even fight them. I just got up, went upstairs and made the popcorn. I delivered it to their beautiful hungry hands (I mean they hadn’t eaten in at least an hour)….then I went upstairs to bed and just cried myself to sleep.
COME ON WOMAN. Get over yourself! RIGHT?
Because I tend to put a Jesus frame around all things, I immediately saw in myself some unflattering gaps in my holiness. “Don’t be Judgy McJudgerson. Just cut that shit out.” That’s what I literally had to say to myself about myself, lest the evil dude from Hades would have had me in his grips quickly.
I doubt I’m the only one who whines to herself occasionally about how no one appreciates, no one notices, no one asks me how I am….blah, blah, blah. I am PRETTY sure, though, that Mary wouldn’t be too impressed with my whining about laundry, dishes and popcorn given that I’ve read the whole “Magnificat” deal a few hundred times. Spoiler alert: She just found out she’s an unmarried pregnant teenager and she OOZES joyfulness so beautiful it will overtake you. Unfamiliar? Read it in Luke 1: 46-55.
Here’s my point, folks. I decided I needed a HOW TO GET OVER YOURSELF manual. I then planned to place it in a prominent location. I googled it and I didn’t find one. So, I’ve been thinking about the things that help me quickly find the version of myself that I enjoy being around. I’ve compiled my list, and I have decided to share. Maybe there are one or two of you who could find something here that’s useful. I find I don’t have to get very far down the list to feel SO MUCH better, SO MUCH more grateful.
Perhaps there are more of you who would like to share your own tips with me. Please. I beg you. SHARE WITH ME ALL YOUR POSITIVITY SECRETS. More is definitely more. I love you all and so does the Lord. You are HIS BELOVED children. Don’t ever forget it.
SHELLY’S “HOW TO GET OVER YOURSELF” LIST:
1. TELL SOMEONE YOU LOVE THEM
2. READ SOMETHING INSPIRING
3. GET SWEATY
4. ROCK OUT TO SOME LOUD MUSIC
5. PRACTICE GRATITUDE—THANK SOMEONE IN PERSON OR IN A NOTE
6. RANDOM ACT OF KINDNESS
8. PERSPECTIVE—YOU HAVE IT PRETTY GOOD COMPARED TO WHO?
9. PRAY FOR THE PEOPLE YOU THOUGHT OF IN #8
10. RECEIVE THE SACRAMENTS—GOD’S GRACE IS A CURE ALL