My 16 year old son, Nick, with his first car…a 2003 Hyundai Santa Fe!
Oh what a day! Oh, what a day!
My baby brother ran away.
And now my tuba will not play!
I’m eight years old and turning gray.
Oh, what a day! Oh, what a day!
Admit it, this is a lively little poem, huh? It’s catchy, silly and it rhymes. Silverstein’s work stuck in my brain when I was a girl the first time I heard it. Anytime I exhale the words “Oh, what a day” (for reasons either positive or negative) I can’t help repeating this goofy, brilliant little poem at top speed right behind it. Sometimes I even do it aloud, which typically elicits a stare which wonders silently about my mental capacity.
OH WHAT A DAY!
The forecast this gray day called for 6-10 inches of additional snow in my weather weary hometown of Carmel, Indiana. Ugh. But, it’s a big day here at the Thieme house, so I shook off Chuck Lofton and Al Roker with their unfriendly news of the morning and got ready to face the day.
As the mother of a son who has reached the age of 16 years, 183 days, it happened to be the first date on the calendar where he was both eligible to receive his Indiana driver’s license AND the BMV is open. It’s a big day.
I’ll never forget my own Dad leaving work to come and pick me up at Central Catholic High School the day I was eligible for my license many moons ago. Mom and Dad didn’t make me wait until a day and time that was practical…when there was no school or sports conflict, for instance. They let their inner teenager lead the way. I recall extreme gratefulness and pure joy!!
OH WHAT A DAY!
First, however, there was the carpool full of grade schoolers to escort to St. Louis de Montfort Catholic School. As I pulled out of the parking lot, I felt a strong inner tug to stop for daily mass. It’s something I do with fair regularity, but I lack discipline and so hadn’t necessarily planned to do so this morning. But I have prayed much of late asking for God’s help on this weakness so the tug was all His perfect timing. Okay, Holy Spirit, I thought. You win. I keep praying about how I need Your help with discipline in all things…physical, spiritual, practical. Thanks for being loud. I hear you. Mass it is.
Just moments after my arrival, in came my father-in-law. I quickly realized God nudged me intentionally and for a specific reason. My silent quick glance to heaven was a prayer of thanksgiving.
“Is mass this morning being said for Jane?” I quizzed.
We sat together, sang together, and Fr. John asked us to bring up the offertory. It was a lovely, intimate mass and I had the opportunity to pray aloud for the souls of two cherished family members whose losses are fresh and for peace for all of us who mourn. We held hands as we said the Our Father and we hugged at the sign of peace. It felt like a great and undeserved gift and if I am honest my heart was aching with both the losses and the overwhelming gratitude for a God who would love me so much that He would know just how to nudge me into attendance so that I wouldn’t miss His incredibly beautiful hug this morning.
OH WHAT A DAY!
At midday, my oldest son got his driver’s license, picked up his first car (a 2003 Hyundai Santa Fe) and got his first tank of gas courtesy of the thoughtful and pretty terrific Dawn and Craig Miller at Indy Auto Source. He drove himself to grab and sandwich, and he made his way home across 116th St. for the very first time all alone. He acknowledged that his dad and I were due “some extra love” and gave me a high five. Exuberance and joy were quite evident on his scruffy teenaged face. I told him that if God blesses him with a family someday to remember how he felt this morning, continue to work hard in school, and pass on the moment one day to my grandchild. I also told him I loved him and am proud of him and that he has given us no reason not to expect he will be extremely responsible with his newfound freedom. Then, a tear I could not reign in fell down my cheek. He smartly ignored it.
OH WHAT A DAY!
What else? They poured the floor in the basement of my soon to be home today. That job was finished moments before the snow began to fall. That would be the same snow that is not supposed to stop until nearly a foot of it has collected. I am not a builder, nor have I recently slept in a Holiday Inn, so I don’t understand that decision.
My friend, Kris, asked our help for her daughter at Purdue that suffered a bad fall today and was in need of medical attention. She reached out knowing our families are both from Lafayette. We passed along the names of a couple doctors, the best ER in town and our promise for prayers for our fellow Boilermaker. A CT scan and X-ray later, we learned there’s no internal bleeding….Thank you God!
My youngest forgot his reading book, my carpool partner called to warn of a problem for her 4th grader arriving home in my car, the ball games were cancelled (again), the kitchen is covered in melting snow footprints, and three friends offered to get my kiddo home from school. Chase is sending me a new credit card because they think someone is trying to steal my identity. Oh, and the 9 year old is thrilled I remembered the peanut butter crackers on my grocery run.
And NOW, here comes the SNOWVERLOAD!!
OH WHAT A DAY! OH WHAT A DAY! MY BABY BROTHER RAN AWAY. AND NOW MY TUBA WILL NOT PLAY. I’M 8 YEARS OLD AND TURNING GRAY. OH WHAT A DAY, OH WHAT A DAY!!
Like moms everywhere, the life I live is completely without glitz. It used to be that I struggled to find my worth in the invisibility that is the day to day existence of the stay-at-home mom. Now, I realize this is the most important work imaginable and I only get one chance to give it my best shot. I am so grateful for every silly moment of this snowy February day. My 16-yr old gave me a high five for goodness sakes and I got to hold hands with my pretty amazing father in law and pray with him. It doesn’t get much better than that. This is the journey. This is the good stuff. Today was a crazy day filled with smiles and a few tears.
Here’s my prayer today. Maybe a few of you will find it suits your needs sometime. My great honor would be if you pray along.
I praise you and I thank you for my very full and often invisible life. In each small detail, in each circumstance, I am given a chance to praise You, Lord, and thank You for loving me perfectly. When I choose to smile through both routine and chaos with peace in my heart, grateful for the blessing of my family and friends and the life You provide me, I honor You. Like St. Philip Neri, who was famous for his joyful spirit in right relationship with You, I invite You to be part of all the smallness of my life. I ask Your help with the discipline and desire I need to grow in holiness and ever closer to You.
And now, I’ve gotta go!! It’s time to work the snow shovel!